How do I expose the affair

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I'm not sure how many 2x4's I'll get for this. But I have decided to move forward with the divorce. There are several reasons why I've figured this will be the best:

1. H is willing to pretty much give me everything I want, so I might as well accept while he is offering and not let it get ugly

2. I got a really big raise, and if he finds out I probably will get stuck with more of the credit card debt. Right now he is willing to split it 50/50. However, with me making more than him even before the raise he could aske for 60/40 in his favor. After the raise it would be more like 80/30. So I would be a lot better off ending it now.

3. I'm sick of being treated like a piece of sh#$ and so unloved by someone who swore he would never do this to me. I found out he had bought OW some clothes, including her kids. Yes I found this out by snooping.

I've decided I deserve someone who will love me unconditionally. And who is willing to stand up to me when I am being controlling. Instead of backing down because it may start a fight. My H said he was miserable for 4 years, but never had the guts to tell me. How unfare is that to me. And I want someone who will not run to an OW for combfort when things are bad.

I know a D doesn't always mean that it's over. My BFF remarried her H after 3 years of D. But it is time for me to move on with my life. And if my H ever comes back from being the alien that he is and I haven't moved on yet, then maybe. But I'm not holding my breath.

No matter what happens I still fully believe in D busting. If I would have done what I needed to those first couple of months. I truly believe that we would be back together already. I want to thank everyone for their advice on my sitch. And I plan on sticking around to try to help others learn from my mistakes. And maybe some updates on my life too.