(Hope, sorry, this is your thread, but Kalni has intrigued me- pardon the interruption)

Kalni- so, how did you strike the balance between confidently letting him know you still were interested in reconciling but you would also be fine without him? I'm really struggling with this. I fear that my happy demeanor speaks louder than my words (that I said once and left it) that I want to work things out. I'd love more detail on how you walked this line- this is H4L's thread, so maybe you can hop over to mine? thanks- it seems like we can learn a lot from you!

When the men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go;
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow;
Go ask Alice...
I think she'll know.