She is about double. Yes, she believes I can close the gap.
I've read many of the posts on this website regarding WAW's. I've also read two books on it. I'm trying to learn.
I made the same mistake as you. When my wife wanted to talk about that stuff, I didn't want to. I was focused on getting the here and now taken care of. You were too. I can tell from your posts. Taking care of the kids, house, lawn etc. The day to day stuff.
That's the logic of us guys versus the emotion of our wives. Now that I am learning to look at life a little bit more through the lens of my wife's eyes, I can relate to her better....but if it happens, it will be in her time. But I promise you I will seize any opportunity that comes my way, and I will no longer be afraid of any conversation she wants to have about how she FEELS or what SHE'S thinking about.
And, you see, you got adversarial when the two of you talked about dreams and her attitude. From this point forward, at least think about how SHE feels about YOUR attitude. I agree with you, this is a hard road. It will seem like it's all about her. That's some of what dreaming is about. When she dreams, it's about what she wants. She sees you as someone who doesn't want to dream WITH her.
I have and am still experiencing this very stuff, so I am talking to the guy in the mirror as much as I am to you.
