Yes, she lied about having another guy. I believe she's lying about when and I think it began as a EA. She's been visiting NM a lot and this is where she's planning to move (though "maybe Austin, TX"). And the "maybe in August" part I'm sure is actually "definitely in Aug, if not when the girls are out of school."
I'm so screwed.
How did she get this evil?
Do I tell the girls? She claims to have informed them, but it's likely thru the lens of her twisted version of things. I want to tell them that their mother is taking them away from me AGAIN and there is no upside to this.
I also think the guy she's seeing is in NM.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
I'm doing an intake w/ legal aid tomorrow. I don't have high hopes.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
Anyone w/ remotely similar experience or legal advice or anything, please. I'm freaking here.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
No advice for you. So sorry. I am not sure you will have much say in this, not being biodad. Is biodad anywhere around? Is he in any sort of picture? He may be able to file some sort of injunction to prevent a move. Best and only advice, seek legal council. Shock
Legally she can't move the kids to another state without the other parents permission. Lets see how long this affair lasts when she can't move the kids and has to stay within a certain mile radius of the father!!!
biodad is in NM and they met him a week ago... for the first time in 10 yrs. I was actually not consulted on this at all, which has me a bit concerned.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
shot myself in the foot again. I'm kind of back in my normal state of mind and felt a bit cocky, so I gave away plans to go to court and make it long and difficult unless she gave in to my request for adoption. I kept it all on email except the last bit (where I f***ed up).
I called her on not believing the rape story and she went ballistic and said no contact until a judge says I get custody.
I had started the convo out in an aggressive stance but began to realize that diplomacy was the best way to go. Then I let her bait me into getting mad when she went off on the various flaws I've displayed over the years and these last few mos in particular.
Can I repair this w/out doing the court thing (war)? What can I say?
Last edited by TooLateForMe; 04/25/1002:41 PM.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
I humbly apologize. I was out of line and you didn't deserve that. I'm really trying hard to get my [censored] together and don't want to [censored] it up. I know, one more apology doesn't matter. I don't want a war and totally regret minimizing the rape incident. That was a serious low blow. We're both guilty of them. I'm just asking for this one chance. haven't sent this yet, any thoughts?
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
I sent it. likely she will ignore me but what the heck?
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
I sent it. likely she will ignore me but what the heck?
Why do you ask for advice, if you can't wait even a couple of hours before implementing?
Looking back up at your thread, I see a bit of a pattern of this, where you panic and get very REACTIONARY. You need to learn to control your emotions, and give people time on here to try and help you.
