You are correct, she will talk if and when she is ready. No doubt about that. I did not read all 30 pages, but I did read a few and got some idea of where you are.
I'd say you handled yourself well overall. Some of the things recommended on this board are opinions, and you just have to decide for yourself how you want to handle it. For instance, I know some encourage you to date while separated or in the divorce process. I couldn't do that, but to each his own.
In one of your posts, you talk about maybe you can get back together later. I'm all for that, but I'd start working today on later. How would you feel if you put your ring back on for a few days or a week? Would your wife say anything if she saw it on you? At this point, nothing wrong with a little experiment here and there. Perhaps a small gift (gift certificate to a spa).
Since you have kiddos, you're going to be interacting regularly. That won't go away. If you haven't already, start saving some money. Pay off your debts if you have any. Your wife is no different than many (if not most). Financial security is important to her. Take a deep look at your career. Seek her advice at the appropriate times.
Don't wait until the divorce is final to think about ways to let her know you care. Start that yesterday.
