She doesn't like making friendships. She never has. Her mother was a massive social butterfly, and I think she decided early off to not be one. She also doesn't like volunteering, etc. I'm hoping that work will help, if she gets a job soon. There's the risk that the job will hit her self-esteem, too, but at least it gets her out of the house. I see the isolation issue as a problem, but her solution was to go places and stay in the van and look at people (not kidding) so she could get out. She didn't want rec programs, nothing.
I don't know what to do about one thing related to the job. She wants a job, and an education at the same time. I'd rather the latter for the communication & "intellegence" EN of mine that I can't get from her.
I feel selfish to direct her though, but I think if she did both of them it would stress me out. Instead of seeing my W, I will hear about her and have to finish work only to have to take care of the kids, house, and more. So I've decided to let her decide without me getting involved. Does that make sense and seem fair?
The simple gestures have been hard, but I'll keep it on my list. I've been consistent for including touch more often. That's been helping. I know her ENs aren't all met by me, but she always says everything is perfect, except when we fight, then everything is bad! But, I'll keep working, God willing.
