Think of this as a small start, but a great start. You did the right thing after asking her if she wanted you to list the house. She said no, so you agreed and moved on.
This may be a little hard for you to hear, but since I'm in cyberspace I can say it....I doubt that she completely trusts you right now when it comes to financial matters. It's better for you to have another realtor handle this and of course, more importantly, it's what SHE wanted.
You don't need to share this with her yet, but make some goals for yourself. Start a savings account if you don't have one, start getting your debts paid off if you have any. Be consistent with your employment. I said this in another forum, but most wives want financial security. You don't have to get wealthy, but they want to FEEL comfortable in that their husband will protect the nest financially. It will take a while.
If I were you, I'd write your thoughts on paper and just hang on to them for at least a few days. One mistake I think I made was asking her on a date when I thought things were going well. Ooops, she said no. It was hard for me to learn patience, so let me encourage you in that way. I thought since my wife and I had such a great discussion that everything was now OK, but it's not yet.
Love her. Trust her. Understand HER point of view, which is that she was fed up enough with what has been going on for years that she WANTED out.
If you do find out she's got OM, the only thing I can say is cross that bridge when/if you come to it. Hopefully you won't.
glimmer where is your sitch located? i would like to read through it
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
