Few things I have going for me. 1. he procrastinates-I don't see him filing for D unless she really pushes him. 2. I don't think OW is ready to move out on her H just yet 3. I am NOT leaving my house 4. He'd have no where to go and no money to go with 5. The kids are in a school in a town that we promised them we would not move until they graduate (2 more years) 6. I am not going to give up my dogs
Have you consulted a lawyer? I am concerned he may D hoping you may have to pay HIM alimony?
I would NOT continue the conversation.. The stunt he pulled today wasn't a conversation...
I would tell him until he apologizes for touching your car today and controlling you like that you aren't going to dignify him with even an eyeblink.
After that I would also tell him HE pushed you into the first meeting and that YOU are going to select the date, time, and place of the second one.
I don't think you should be letting him call the shots like this... you are sending an implicit message that you are willing to be manipulated and controlled, and essentially bullied.
You need to show him you wont' put up with the caveman tactics any further. Each exchange you have Pass you TEACH your SPOUSE what you are WORTH and how YOU EXPECT to be TREATED
This afternoon you taught him you approve of him tampering with your car, you approve of him bullying you into a spew of panic stricken script, and you approve of his ONE-WAY conversations.
You need to find your dignity SOON or you are teaching him to treat you like a doormat. Has he even TRIED to apologize to YOU at ALL yet?
I wouldn't let him get one step into a talk until he offers that up.
I told my wife that... she spewed at me much the same as you got here... I told her straight out that I deserve better treatment than I got and I deserve at the VERY least an apology.
After she offered that up, THEN i listened. But pay attention to how much time he puts into finding out how YOU FEEL... so far its been ZERO.. and I would NOT reccomend you tolerate that.
If you want a talk, use a stop watch and each of you get five minutes to vent. MWD mentions this in DB book - the first book. Just letting both spouses talk wtihout interruption for five mins each... a free license to rant if you will.. but a FAIR one.
I would refuse the 930 pm talk until he starts to show you some respect again... and a walk in the garden is not an apology for tampering with your car or for lying to you for weeks on end.
