I grew strong.....I learned how to carry on

[BobbiJo]

If you can stay that way to fall asleep, then great! I just can't get comfortable enough to sleep that way. It sounds dorky and prob TMI, but I sleep best with a guy (actual SLEEP, not play!) if we are both facing out with our butts or feet touching...just a small connection but still able to sleep and not feel smothered!

[john210]

i hear you BBJ
And now that I am sleeping alone most nights I really feel smothered. I should not complaining

[smith18]

I find there is too much body heat under the covers to fall asleep when 2 people are entwined. I dont mind it in the summer when there are not as much covers. I like to sleep with one or 2 feet stickin outside the covers to help regulate my temperature.

In case of a wet spot, I am not sure the protocol. I bet one can find that answer at http://www.askmen.com/dating/dzimmer/

[smith18]

Here is a video for you John...

http://www.askmen.com/video/dating/610-how-to-get-out-of-a-post-sex-cuddle.html

[Gypsy]

Giovanni..

It's hard to comment when I can't recall. I was a cuddler and liked to touch toes, or have some physical contact when sleeping or going to sleep. Loved to touch touch touch.

And Kerry, I forgot allll about the wet spot...

It's been quite a while!

*hugs*

[BobbiJo]

Why did you have to bring the wet spot into this!?! Kerry kerry kerry...

Ok so maybe there is ONE good thing about sleeping alone...my sheets are dry...

[Virtually_Handsome]

Any of these "problems".... well, where do I get them?

[kml]

"What is the deal with post sexual act cuddling??? "

Interesting question. The ex and I used to sleep intertwined, I'd gotten quite used to that.

The first time I slept with the new guy, there was a little bit of post-act snuggling - but then, when it was time to go to sleep, he wanted me to go to MY side of the bed. ALL the way. Far side of a California King. Like 3 feet away! No touching!

I'll admit, it kinda freaked me out at first. What, didn't he like me?

Now I know that he just doesn't sleep well in general, and feels he needs his space to sleep.

But I also notice that, as he lets down his defenses and gets a little closer to me, he now sleeps a little bit closer, and even occasionally touches me with a foot or something, lol.

One morning we even fell back asleep while spooning - when I woke up, I was very surprised that he hadn't even chewed his arm off!!!

[john210]

What is the deal with women and protecting against being a booty call??? Even when it is obvious that they are not....

[BobbiJo]

Ummm...........guess we don't want to be perceived as cheap and easy even though we do have sexual desires of our own?

I know in my case my mom told me literally every day of my teen life that if I slept with a guy before marriage I would be 'trash' and a 'slut'....there goes that family of origin creeping in! I lied and let her think Dan and I waited--granted we did wait 2 years.

In my case I think there is just an inner conflict between "Hey it's been two years, come ON"...and "Sex right out of the gate is not what I am used to"...