H4L, I guess DBing comes down to preparing for the outcome that we don't want (D), while leaving the door open to reconciliation. Kalni is giving you excellent advice, as usual.
What I hope that you'll be able to see is that the only good choices for you right now are ones that are good for either outcome. I am doing some hardcore work on my R with H right now, but I can justify it as an investment in coparenting since that will continue to be one of the most important Rs of my life, forever.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
