i will take all this to heart, it's sinking in
but i must say that you never gave your H a legal separation and i did because i thought it would get us into MC - it did - but i also thought once there, H would begin to look at the M.

so now I am more in trouble. He is that much closer to being gone as he knows where he will stand in a D and isn't afraid of it. How can what you did work for me if I have given him so much leway - is what I wonder.

Not to mention, you are the rare one Kalni. Look at all the people on these boards - so many end in D. It just looks bleak for me.

But I know you are all correct and i"m trying to stay strong. H is sgoing to call tonight to say good night to S and I will have to resist talking to him. It's so hard.


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship