I WISH my IC had said yeah, kick his a$$ (or kick his a@@ out, as the case may be)!
On clues, texts, and miscommunications... my H had built a whole world of stuff in his head that he thought I thought that I never thought. MINDREADING and PROJECTION. There were things that I had said that were twisted and magnified, things I shouldn't have said, and stuff that was utterly his issues being projected on me (and, I'm sure, vice versa me doing that a bit to him). That's why you should listen carefully to his kneejerk comments now.. like the one's about YOUR $, YOUR SECURITY, YOUR HOUSE SUCCESS, and him feeling ineffectual and like you and your family thought he wasn't a good man. This is stuff you can address if it's a longstanding misperception on H's part. Or even a current paranoia caused by GUILT. It's good to know this stuff if he's never going to say anything directly but blame you for being depressed after your Mom died. Good luck!
