Very insightful. To draw a boundary, maybe no more sleeping over. He can come for dinner, but needs to leave when you are ready for bed. Just a thought?
I completely understand the GALing with a young child, especially when you are the sole caregiver, which I both know we would not change for the world , however that does put GALing to a minimum because we don't get every other weekend without children or even an afternoon. It is very exhausting to work all day, take care of your toddler S because boys seem to be so much more active, do house work (for me upkeep on the house). I say all of that to just remind you that GAL does not always have to be going out or hanging out with people. Take one night a week to have a long bath or get a book to read just for fun. A book that has nothing to do with H or marriage, or work, but something to get your mind into another world. Anything that will relax you and give you a little of rejuvenating power so you can continue on.
I agree with you. H is still giving you many signs of progress and a lot of bits of hope, but now is the time to set boundaries so as things continue to progress, he already knows the boundaries and you don't have to set them later. He already knows that to be with you the partying has to stop or things such as that.
Wishing you luck and glad tax season is winding down so you can relax again.
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, however that does put GALing to a minimum because we don't get every other weekend without children or even an afternoon. It is very exhausting to work all day, take care of your toddler S because boys seem to be so much more active, do house work (for me upkeep on the house). I say all of that to just remind you that GAL does not always have to be going out or hanging out with people. Take one night a week to have a long bath or get a book to read just for fun. A book that has nothing to do with H or marriage, or work, but something to get your mind into another world. Anything that will relax you and give you a little of rejuvenating power so you can continue on.
