He was waiting for me in my car when I got out of work-he even took the fuse out of the car so I couldn't start it. He said all the things he said to MIL except that he added that he's not going to Retro with me, he just "can't" - the A has nothing to do with how he feels, and I did a good job validating. However, I did not break down and cry or whatever he expected so he kept saying "you're not taking this seriously." I reminded him that I also have had issues with how I felt for him, not sure if I should have done that.
Also, he said several times that OW and OWH have their own issues to deal with and I asked if he thought she could do that while they were still involved, and he said "I don't know, I'm not inside her head." So, he round-about admitted that he's not breaking it off with her. What she left me was, as I suspected, script in front of OWH to show him that she's going to "try" to repair their M. I want to call him, but she's been answering his phone. Classic response, the cheater now doesn't trust the LBS.
He's so hopeless right now, doesn't believe that he will ever be able to get the love back.
I'm mostly upset by the "I'm not going to Retro" thing, but he may come back around. We still have time for that. Should I ask again or give it a few days? I didn't want to leave a few days for him to get used to the idea.
Family night tonight so I'm going to PMA and have a good time with children.
