Looking for help with WAW

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Bridgestone, thank you for checking in. I want to read up on you sitch.

GM, thanks again for the good advice.

Ok, just talked with W for a half hour by phone. What a great conversation. I don't think I could have asked for more or it could have gone much better. We were both extremely friendly. I made her comfortable and wow, did she relax. We talked like we did when we were happy in our M. You wouldn't have even been able to tell that we are separated if you listened to this conversation. No R talk, just talked about house. I thanked her for taking care of the carpet and house cleaner. She went on about how she was happy with their price and the work they would do. I agreed with my W and it made her HAPPY! I valued her, I listened. I asked her what she wanted and she told me. We talked how we are going to work together to open the house for the cleaners.

We talked about selling the house. Here comes my 180...I agreed to sell it. I made my decision. Whew, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I came to the decision this morning. It's the right thing to do for my W and I. She was so happy. Truth be told, I am too. We can always buy another house.


GM, I tried your suggestion about asking her about the stress of the house. I jokingly said to her that hasn't this house been nothing but stress. She said, "Yes, it's been a huge stress". The way she said it conveyed that she was relieved to finally be selling it. She seemed to have felt so good when I asked her and she was able to say that. GM, thank you so much for that suggestion. I could tell it meant something to my W.

We talked about price and both agreed. She even agreed with me that we shouldn't give it away. I did ask her one more time if she was sure she didn't want me to list the house. If I list it we get to keep my commission. I didn't really want someone else selling it and giving away that commission. She said she was more comfortable with the other realtor. Her reasons were because of the time the realtor could devote to it. She didn't give any reasons of not wanting me to sell it because of our sitch. She would have mentioned this in the past. After she gave me her answer I let it go (didn't mention it again) and agreed with her to use the other realtor. I told her that I know she wants to list it this weekend but I really needed the weekend to finish the work. She asked if we could list it on Monday and I said yes, that sounds good to me. I told her that she could call the realtor and get the paperwork ready and we'll sign it Monday. The relief and happiness in her voice was clear. I bet she got off the phone and couldn't believe that conversation and how I was. I'm actually going to try to finish the work by the end of this week so we can list it this weekend and surprise her. That would make her happy and very surprised. Wow, 180s all over the place now.

We talked and joked about some other things at the end of the conversation. She didn't hurry to get off of the phone. I ended the call during a good moment. I wanted to end the call on a good note.

I wrote her a very short email owning up to things. I told her she was right about a lot of things. I haven't sent her the email yet. I might wait until tomorrow night to send it. I don't want her to think that just because we had a good conversation today that I am jumping at the chance to want more.

I'll post more later. I can't even remember everything from the conversation right now. I'm very happy with the conversation and she is happy. Maybe now we can get past this house once and for all and see where things go from here. Off to the gym now to burn off some of this energy.