Probably because today that's all she does want. You will have to really pay attention for opportunities.
Here's another example from my sitch. I called W to ask her to do something and she did not call back for about two hours. Turned out to be a rough day at work for her. So I asked her what happened.
Now in my case, I know most of her coworkers, and you may not know your wife's coworkers. I said "yes, ol' so and so can be like that sometimes. I remember last time ol' so and so caused you a problem"
My wife then went on to talk about it for about 15 minutes, then said "I'm sorry, I'm talking your ear off". I told her it was OK and that I'm sorry her day was rough. I told her not to worry, perhaps we could do something another time and said goodbye.
You will be able to do something with your wife again, you've got kids!
My point is this. The way to reach her emotionally right now is probably NOT with your relationship. She probably is sick of that right now just like you are.
Find something else that is frustrating her. Maybe work, maybe a family member. It doesn't have to be R talk to start an emotional connection with your wife. It will take time.
Be there FOR her.
I'm guessing all she sees right now is a husband who's trying to get half her pension when she FEELS she got herself to where she is.
I'd recommend you do several things at once. 1) Increase your income 2) Look for SMALL opportunities to talk about things that bother her OTHER than your R. 3) Don't look to her to go 50/50 with you on your R right now. Maybe your wife FEELS like mine, which is she's been pulling dead weight for years.
