But, as an encouragement, my H and I just talked the other day about how "sparks" come and go and no R ever has a "spark" all the time... you have to work at it. We talked about how a M is more than that and there is so much value in all the rest of it too. H seems to get that now. Doesn't mean we are not working on getting the spark back... we are! But, at some point I hope your W can see there is more to the big picture... that is only one part of it.
GW, you are doing well IMO. You handled that talk like a DB pro! And, now it gives you more time to keep working on you and making progress in the R.