Most of what I would have said is already here, so I won't waste time when others have already said it much better.
The only point I might side with puppy on is NOT being there at 930 pm in the first place.
I think a cooling off day or two would do him good... Pass how many days/weeks/months has this man left YOU spinning in the wind panicking over his affair?
But more to the point. If you give him a few days, he will have time to calm down a bit... rather than facing his rage with only one day into exposure... I honestly DOUBT he will even have anything constructive to say. Based on what he's offered so far, I think you can expect more of the same BS and not an ounce of anything cooperative or informative.
I dunno, its your call pass, there are many variables at play here, but the one that hasn't been said enough, although it has been said, that HE is SETTING this time and EXPECTING you to comply... he is trying to control the meeting.
My advice is to agree to meet him in a public restaurant at an AGREED on time for BOTH of you... NOT in PRIVATE in your BEDROOM at a TIME HE DEMANDS from you.
In my opinion he's setting you up for an attack, not him opening up his feelings... he is STILL addicted right now.. HEAVILY based on the scripts hes tossing out in the last day or so... I agree with pup that give him a few more days to allow this reality hit to settle IN, and for you two to NEGOTIATE a FAIR place to discuss things constructively...
Him demanding YOU talk to HIM at the time HE decides and basically demands is just NOT the beginning of a constructive conversation... Something good may come of it, but only a day into exposure I would be pleasantly surprised...
Who knows, if you decide to be there maybe christmas will actually come early this year...
