I am pretty sure I've read much of your thread. It has helped me to learn how to listen and ask my WAW the questions that will help me be the husband she needs to be.
It has also helped me to know that there is not just automatically OM involved with a wife who walks.
A couple of months ago, I know there was no other option in her eyes except divorce. Though it has been filed, she has softened on that stance and I hope she withdraws it, but I know it's kind of a safety net for her while she decides if I am trustworthy.
I am pretty sure some of it has to do with the fact that I've really listened to her, owned up, and talked directly about decisions that I've made that I regretted because I now look at those decisions through the lens of her eyes.
