This whole religious thing and the hypocrisy we see but they don't, is imo, b/c Your w and OM also use their feelings of "love" and passion for each other NOT as signs of a new found attraction and middle aged MLC type of addictive behavior BUT as evidence that it is somehow from God. They want to wrap it nicely. Nothing tawdry here folks!! "THIS IS REAL" and look, she's so enlightened her h AND her new found love are both here blessing it all....isn't it all so beautiful???
If your w were not married, I'd love to buy that, AND yet I'd still say "slow down" and get to know this OM....but oops, she IS already m and there are children. I could not do this to my kids unless my h hit me AND there'd be no need to lie then. Good thing that pastor knows now. Let a real spokesman for the Big Guy do some real talking. I think he'll plant seeds and that in SOME time, she'll wake up OR she'll quickly choose another avenue and stop going this religious route. But the seeds may find dry soil for some time. My instinct says she won't wake up for a long time. Like over a year. Just something I cannot articulate but yes, I do think it'll happen but have no picture on where you'll be on your journey then.
The serenity prayer is wonderful. But do and say it all, for it does not stop at asking God to grant you the serentity to "accept the things we cannot change"; it also asks for the "courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" so may God grant you all that and more.
j-
The man who inspired her baptism suggested reading from the bible to her. He used that for his wife, and she had 2 kids with another man while still married to him and he was in prison.
I did that today as she was over to watch the kids while I went to a meeting. I told her that there is a light inside her but it is clouded by evil. That she's a good woman but evil is trying to take her down. While I'm sure she felt awkward, she agreed to hold my hand and listen as I read to her. After that we had some nice conversation; no R talk.
She did mention and I quote "I LOVE that church. I would do ANYTHING for it."
Little does she know she is soon going to be asked to, as the pastor and a few others start calling her out on her affair...
Stay tuned.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
