i'm in the same boat. WAH and no children. reconciliation seems hopeless for us with no children. there is no reason for the spouse to stick around. they think it's like a bf/gf breakup but it hurts everyone no matter what.
i am feeling pessimistic and very hopeless. i know i need to work on myself and look at how i contributed to the problem. but somehow i am beginning to feel that db-ing is just a way of making the LBS feel less like a victim so he/she can move on.
my goal is to save my marriage. there is no OP. no abuse. but same story - once h makes up his mind, that's it. there is no changing it. if that's the case, then why bother db-ing? it's pointless. i can work on myself until the cows come home and it will not save my marriage.
i'm sorry fellow posters and DB-ers. i'm not looking for pity today. really. i have been reading posts and i just feel like there are more marriage breaking up than getting back together. it leaves me feeling less optimistic about my sitch.
my h and i talk on a daily basis. we are not hostile towards one another. we talk like friends and joke with one another. you wouldn't think that two people like us are getting a d. but we are. we don't go out together. we don't sit in the same car together even if we are going to the same place. we do nothing together except watch tv and have dinner at home.
it kills me to put a brave face on every day. do i even know the reason why we are d-ing? i did get the ilybinilwy line and h would much rather live a life alone. he says he's been so hurt by our M that he thinks every woman is after his money and he'd rather spoil himself than to spend money (ie. buy gifts) on a woman ever again.
can somebody give me some kind of kick in the pants today? i'm so ready to throw in the towel even though my marriage is destroyed for unknown trivial reasons.
