Eric, I can tell you this, every sitch is different, but at 6 months there was progress and I totally messed it up. and all you do is set yourself back in your timeline.
Hell, my W even said this one time, "Things will go great for about 2 weeks and then you say something, that makes me think you will never change". Looking back I can see that I was on a cycle, and I did that for 6 or 7 weeks where I would make some progress and then say something. I have a fellow DBer that lives around the corner from me even tell me (2X4 to the head, thanks Kemper) I was on this cycle.
It is almost harder when you start seeing positive changes in you spouse and you want more positive changes as opposed to when they are being mean and nasty to you or even having an open, in your face affair. IMO we all no how to handle the negative behavior but we all of a sudden get stupid when there is something positive in our sitches.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
