I still say have them there...

And

yes

i have faced squad cars
i have had nasty untrue things said about me
i have had slanderous comments made
i have had death threats posed to me

all by Cori's ex

I still say be there

it isn't for her benefit
it is for your children's

it is to counter
outloud and in front of her
information that is not correct

you don't need to say you fought against a divorce
they know that
you do need to let them know that you love them and if their mom says bullshit you need to be there to counter it