Game Point

[tryingtilDorR]

So an update is that while W hasn't talked to me again about the status of her rental application, I have found out on my own that they accepted it and wanted her to come and sign the lease agreement last week and pay first/last month's rent, with the rent starting next week. All I know is that she put some money down on the place but it was far less than first/last months rent based upon the withdrawl I saw in the bank account. However, she still hasn't said anything to me directly about renting the place, when she would leave, etc. I have a feeling she put a deposit down to hold it and plans to come up with the rest of the money later. She hasn't said anything to her family about renting a place or moving out either. It is strange but I have a feeling she will dump this on everyone (kids, her family, me) at the last second (the day she literally leaves) so that she doesn't have to hear it from others.

I was looking over Coach's old threads when his W moved out and later returned, and one difference I see here is that there was no OM in sight in his situation and his W was saying she wanted the M to work at some level even though she filed for D and moved out. Interesting. It is one of the few success stories I have seen where W actually left and came back.

I was out with friends on Saturday night at a local bar that was pretty empty. We were in a corner of the place at what I thought was kind of a quiet secluded table but apparently the waitress overheard our conversation. I was talking to them about my W, M, etc and they were talking about theirs as well. These are a couple of close friends I confide in and they wanted to know how things were going. The waitress, whom I didn't recognize or otherwise know, apparently knew who I was and told a friend of W and W got pissed. I told her that I was talking to my friends just like she does, but didn't know there was a nosy waitress listening. I only tell the facts/truth about our situation, and only to a few friends.

She said "well I bet you weren't talking about me in a very pleasant manner" I said the truth isn't pleasant.

Once she leaves it will be easier to detatch from her I suspect. It will be financially devastating, but in many ways I am kind of numb to the stress related to that for whatever reason. I plan to just sit tight for abotu 3 months after she moves and not make any major decisions about my house, finances, filing for D, etc. I am just going to fix up the house and focus on the kids.