One other possibility about the house. Is it possible that your wife would be more open to talk to you if the house were at least on the market ASAP? Tonight may give you an opportunity to find out just how stressful this house is to her.
I don't remember where I read it, but financial security is WAY up there on the list of priorities for what makes them feel safe and protected by their husband. This house has the opportunity to provide you with a lot of insight on what your wife is FEELING. Use that opportunity and listen and when you do listen, throw your real estate knowledge in the closet for the time being. This is about how your wife FEELS.
