thanks, OTM. it was very hard, when i wanted to yell and cry and fight back. i calmly stood my ground, validated her feelings, and said i wasn't going to carry the conversation further if she was going to continue to say such hurtful things. i think the book i'm reading on buddhism is helping me think things through and be a bit more mindful and have more control over my responses.
of course none of this changes anything between my H and i. the shortness of his replies yesterday felt like a punch in the gut. he's just distancing himself from me at this point. he told me a few weeks ago that his IC noted that he seemed to continue to push me away, the one person he could always count on to love him and be there for him...i guess now he's decided he already burned that bridge and there's no going back.
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
