People who are done, who are emotionally D, who have moved on do not have the kind of email discussions or face-to-face discussions that you continue to have with W. That's just how it is.
But, think what you will, keep a closed mind if you must. It just takes a lot more energy, most of it negative, to keep the door closed on your M that way. How can you move forward with your back up against the door? Again, you can wear blinders to avoid surprises in the world to stay firmly on your path or you can take off the blinders, commit to your path, but allow that some surprises just might steer you in a different direction.
I think that fills my quota for questionable analogies today. From your posts, I'm pretty sure that you'll trip over your own open mind some day some distance down the road. Sometimes you trust a stranger and take a shortcut. Sometimes you don't.
