I am doing well, thanks! Ran in the DC National Half-Marathon this past weekend and pulled in a time of 1 hour 50 minutes and 57 seconds which was well under my goal of 2 hours. My WAS ran in as well. We carpooled down to the race together. It's funny we have very similar interests, like the same types of things when it comes to house styles, furniture, music, movies, etc. We get along very well when we are together - she just doesn't want to be married to me. I don't really get it, but more importantly I have stopped obsessing over it and have accepted it for what it is. However because we get along so well, it has kept me in limbo much longer than I have really liked. The ease of our interactions keeps the door a bit ajar that there is still hope for reconcilliation.
Tonight and tomorrow night my girls are with her so these are my nights to myself which I have learned to appreciate. The girls will be back at the house here after school tomorrow until she picks them up - so I still get to see them almost everyday.
Thanks for checking in. I need to check on your thread to see how things are with you.
I could be totally off here but the first thing that came to my mind when I read that was: hey maybe she needs to feel a little threatened by another woman in your life? Maybe she sees you as the 'ole reliable' who'll always be there for her if her plans didn't work out? Of course, she could just be slowly drawing towards you and not really ready to commit yet.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Very sad right now. Found out yesterday, that a friend of mine who was successfully recovering from brain surgery went into cardiac arrest and died. It was so unexpected. She was just getting into physical therapy and was due to come home soon. She leaves 3 children, one of which is an 11 year old daughter. My friend was a single parent and this little girl's father has not seen her in 7 years. I am very worried for her. Her two brothers are in no postion to really take care of her, they are 18 and 21. What an awful situation.
That is awful. Sometimes people rally at unexpected times. Perhaps the dad, the oldest brother or another family member will step up. In any case, it's a tragedy.
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I am hopeful that my friend's sister will step up and take care of her. The 11 year old really needs a female influence and her Aunt would be a good option for her. Unfortunately she does not live in the area here, but is only about 90 miles away so that isn't too bad. Not that her brothers don't love her, they just can't provide her the kindof direction and guidance that she needs. Her absent father lives 3000 miles away and it would be a huge mistake for him to swoop in after 7 years and take her from the surroundings she is familiar with and the friends that she has in this area. You are right, it is a tragedy.
Friday afternoon: Attended the funeral of a very good friend of mine. STBXW attended as well and followed me home to pick up the girls (it's her weekend) - she ended up sharing a bottle of wine with me and I asked if she wanted to stay for dinner which she promptly said yes to. She stayed at the house until around 9pm before collecting up the girls and heading back to her apartment. The visit was very pleasant. Before she left, she asked if I wanted to make plans to all go down to DC to see the cherry blossoms on Saturday and then do something together on Easter Sunday as well, I said of course.
Saturday: As we agreed the previous evening, I picked up STBXW and two D's and headed to DC. Spent about 2 hours walking around looking at the cherry blossoms. Afterwards, I dropped them off at STBXW's apt and she said that she would be over Sunday Morning with the girls.
Sunday: STBXW and D's arrived around 10am. We planned a trip to Shenandoah to go hiking and have a picnic. Drove out, did a nice 3 to 4 mile hike, and enjoyed a nice picnic lunch that I had packed. Came back home and she stayed for about an hour and then left by herself to go back to her apt.
All in all we had the kind of weekend that any "Normal" happy couple would have with their family. Absolutely no one would realize that we are separated and heading for divorce. There were no arguments, nothing unpleasant, but also no physical intimacy. I don't get it at all. We both like all of the same things and can have a fun time together, but yet she is content to live separated. This has been going on for sometime now. However, everytime I propose we move forward with some time of reconcilliation she withdraws for a couple of days and then resumes with the above type interaction.
So after the nice weekend we had with lots of interaction and an overall good time, the WAW has gone cold on me.
It would be okay if we went two steps forward and one step back, heck even one forward and two back would mean I am at least getting somewhere different - but we seem to be stuck in this perpetual two steps forward and then two steps back to end up in the same damn place! Which just drives me crazy.
