Honey he needs to get off of the jail thing. I'm sorry, but that is just too bad, so sad for him. I would not listen to a word of that. As soon as he starts I would cut off the conversation. He made that choice, you did not.
I would really limit contact with him. It does not sound like it is healthy for you or your healing and growing. Just chalk it up to everything is your fault in his eyes and move on from there. I would not listen to a word of it. End the convo.
I also would not seek out contact with him, if it "irritates and preturbs him". Let him simmer and hang. Good for you for not answering when he called you back twice. Let him twist in the wind. MLC or not he seems to have the idea that he can treat you any way he likes that that it is okay and there should be no consequences for it.
Whenever my ex starts in on something that is not about the kids or starts with the whining/blame game I just cut it off.
You will not do yourself any favors by trying to please him or keep him from getting mad. It will only pull you in more and he will STILL be mad.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
