Passenger - you need to stop reacting to people and perhaps open your ears and listen a bit. Your H might just say something you find useful to repairing your M.
Again, I couldn't disagree more strongly. Luv ya, Saffie, but you're wrong on this one. People in CURRENTLY ACTIVE affairs are NOT going to "say something useful" to their betrayed spouses about repairing their marriage. To the contrary, they're going to lie, obfuscate, gaslight and DEFLECT.
I agree that there will come a time for REAL mutual soul-searching -- and conversation -- between the two of them about their marital problems, but at this VERY raw and early stage, NOTHING USEFUL is going to come out of such an exchange, in my opinion.
