OW is a symptom, and perhaps you need to acknowledge that, but also state that one can't work on a M when there are three people involved , and so A with OW has to end, and THEN you two can see what you are going to do.
Saffie, I thought that's what she very clearly did:
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I know all about your infidelity You are hurting me, the kids, and your whole family I want you to break it off with her immediately I want us to work on our marriage
It doesn't get much clearer than that.
I'm sorry, but I disagree -- I don't think it's Passenger's job to "calm down" her husband, if he's UN-calm because she has exposed his infidelity.
It's not her job to rescue him from his discomfort; on the contrary, I think it is BENEFICIAL for him to remain "in the crucible" for awhile.
