You're also still in the early, early bomb months, so cut yourself some slack at least until your sleep gets settled.
rr22, thanks for reminding me (and flowmom, too, of course--it's her thread, after all) of this. Most of the time, it feels like it's been an eternity since H and I separated. However, in terms of separation, I'm still in the early months, too. I don't want to force anything too soon, and I have to frequently tell myself that it hasn't been an inordinately long amount of time (especially where separations are concerned). Incidentally, if I happen to forget how much time has passed, I have my helpful father to remind me how long my H has been gone. He gives me these frequent calendar/passage-of-time updates at least once a week.
I've been working my way (slowly and piece by piece) through a really good book. I've learned that approximately 80% of all married couples separate for two months or longer some time during their marriages. I've also become aware of the four-stage cycle of premature reconciliation and the four stages of successful reconciliation. I'm now working on defining my values and getting into the chapter where I create my plan of action to "get my partner back." I really want to reconcile with my H, but I'm also very glad I carefully read about the dangers of premature reconciliation. It makes me feel like I can be more patient (though I don't have much choice!).
