we get along great when it's just the 2 of us. We've done tons of travelling. The problems come up with running a house and living together. He always wants my full attention,
Originally Posted By: SecondChance
The place where he is living is the exact same building as where we lived when we first got married. Said he went back there because he remembers it being a happy time for him. But I'm not sure he means the marriage!!
Yes he is back there because this is where you two were happy. Before you had children, when you could give him ALL of your attention.
He can’t deal with it any other way right now. And this fits right in to what Snodderly has told you about not completing transition periods.
Originally Posted By: SecondChance
We talked on the phone last night. He is thinking more about my sitch now. He is making more sense. He says he wants to find a way to come back here, and he has some realistic ideas on how to do that.
I'm trying to keep my expectations low for now.
Originally Posted By: SecondChance
I fear that he just wants to string me along for 2-3 years now, which will neutralize my support/custoday/alimony situation and leave me virtually on my own to support myself for the next 20 years while he goes on to be rich (hard to explain).
SC,
Your interactions didn’t go so well because you are still looking to your H for some real indication to come home. You are still trying to please him.
He has said he wants to do these things, but he is not taking action yet to do this…
So while the thought is on his mind, it is one that he hasn’t committed to yet…
Keep going on your path, doing what you need to do for you…
When his actions and words start to match up, then and only then would I really give any brain power to it…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
