Get this guys. I got three, LONG voice mails on my phone at work. From OW and OWH - they decided to work on it and she just wanted to say why do I stay with a man who does all of this to me. She's looking for intel, I'm sure and I doubt she's really going to stop seeing him. However, she also facebook messaged me and copied DH. Here it is in a nutshell. You'll LOVE this.
Hi W, I left a message on your work voicemail because it seems impossible to reach you on your cell phone. It would have been nice to talk to you directly but I guess that's impossible since you're avoiding me.
I'm sorry for all the pain H has put you through. I'm sorry for all the pain you put H through. You describe a totally different person than the H I know and have known since 15 years before you even met him. The H I know is someone who is sweet, loving, caring, with a big heart who was buried for a long time and was manipulated into a ”yes man" as he calls it, for years while he tried for years to prove to you that you deserved to be happy. And apparently you refused to be happy, even with a "yes" man at your feet.
On the other hand, the H you told me you're married to is a totally different person than the one I know. He sounds like a monster actually, one that is cold, callous, cheating, a liar who has thrown your family into debt, bankruptcy, and turmoil, having affairs so often you even anticipate them before they even happen. Nevermind all the people he's bought all these necklaces for and the several women he's told he wants to marry in the years he's been married to you and all these constant STD tests you have to keep taking, etc., ... what about your own sense of self worth? When you left that message for me today I wasn't sure who you were trying color a bad picture of, H, or yourself? Why in the WORLD would you stay married to such a wretched monster as that, what does that say about YOU and your sense of self worth or self esteem? Why would you do that to yourself? It just doesn't make any sense to me! And if you knew he was going to come prowling around me for yet another affair, why didn't you warn me?
I understand you were desperate to tell my husband that H and I have been getting together as if this was another episode of As The World Turns. But I think what's more important is that you might want to address all these issues with YOUR husband and moreso yourself and figure out why you would be married to such a wretched being. Thanks for the eye opener. I am running fast n furious away from a man who is such a troublemaker, liar, cheater, who has caused you $75,000 in credit card debt!! Woah! I would highly recommend seeing therapist to build your self esteem so that you might have the strength and sense of self worth to be with a REAL man who treats you with RESPECT. Who cares about ME, I was shocked when I was listening to your message, shocked that a self respecting woman would be married to a ho who runs around telling women he wants to marry them, having affairs left & right, telling them they're his soulmate, and dragging you into bankruptcy, hellooo? I don't have a THING to do with THAT mess, that's all your baggage, and I wish you LUCK. Just remember, if you don't have a sense of self worth you have nothing and no one can help you and no one is to blame but yourself. And as my cousin always says, "Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me."
