Thanks Celestial. I think you were around during my first time here. Sorry to hear about your situation. I am not at all sure I am heading towards where I think I am but as you say, I do know the signs as much as anyone. That said, one of the reasons I actually didn't want to come here was that I remembered MANY people here were supportive but there were also a few where were not so much. When I say supportive, I mean 100% committed to helping people save a marriage and in that, 100% committed to doing things that may seem counter-intuitive but as I am a witness to, actually DO work in the long run (e.g. DBing).
So to that, I am looking for help to work on my part of this and I think in reading the MLC sticky thread with the parts from the chapter in DB, I took that first step. There was a lot of help to be found there, and it took me back to when I immersed myself in these thoughts and techniques... and I do believe they saved my marriage.
I understand if this is MLC, it may be a much tougher road this time. I am honestly not sure I am up for it because there is a LOT more going on in our lives (lots of financial/business issues.. that may be contributing factors to all this) and I am already under tremendous pressure without the added issues of my wife's new behavior.
But here I am, and at least for now, I am willing to re-learn the skills I need to give my marriage a chance, so much as I can alone.
