I think H may be angry. Don't know for sure, but I sent him an email (before visitor) asking what kind of foot powder he sent SS who is a marine deployed aboard ship right now. (SS, when I talked to him last said he could use some refills because it worked well for him.) I haven't heard anything from H and before he has always answered my emails when I've sent them asking about kids or finances.
Oh well, I'll just let it go and have SS look up the name of it. H can stew if that's what he's doing. It seems funny that he doesn't want me, but doesn't want anyone else to have me either. It's all so hypocritical, this MLC. Yes, he can think what he wants about it, I'm not saying anything.
It seems funny that he doesn't want me, but doesn't want anyone else to have me either
He just wants to know that you are there still waiting for him. Perhaps the visitor had made much bigger impact on him the you'd think. You don't know what's going on in a MLC brain.
My H said that he realized how much he missed me when we went away without him.
You never know what could "trigger" them.
Take care
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Have any of you tried Sam-e as a mood enhancer? I haven't had to resort to AD's yet, but as my sitch progresses w/o any sign from H of wobbling I'm finding it harder to keep a PMA going. I'm generally a positive, optimistic person but I find it waning of late. Not terribly, but feeling it starting to spiral downward a bit.
I had to go on AD's for a while, sometimes I think I still need them but I'm trying not to go back on them. I had to change insurance companies & my new plan does not cover meds very well, so I just got off. I did it slowly, of course & with doctors consent. Anyway, I have a friend that has tried this natural stuff called Mindsoothe, she said it has really worked for her. I haven't tried it yet so I have no clue, but I just thought I would throw that in just in case you feel like you need something. She said it has even helped her sleep. Just look it up on line & it will tell you what all is in it & where to buy, stuff like that.
Hang in there!! This is not an easy road, be we are here for you!
nlt, thank you so much for your response. I will look that up.
I think I was just going through a down spell. Maybe is just natural when going through the process of detaching? Makes me sad when I think of all that I've lost. I counteract that most of the time by remembering what I still have.
Thanks for the hugs NLT and CW! I sure needed them.
OK opening myself up for some possible 2x4's, but I thought I'd throw this out there. My H will have been gone 7 months on the 5th, of May. I have not pursued him after the first couple of months. (Found my footing and this site.) H has not contacted me in any form for 2 weeks now and I haven't contacted him either. On May 1st, it will be our 28th wedding anniversary. I was mulling over the idea of sending him a simple text saying something like, 'thinking of you'.
Please give me your thoughts and opinions on this.
That is a good question. My 17th anniversary is on May 15th. In years past I would get her a card but this year I think I am just going to let it pass. It might be better to let him think you are moving on.
That day is one of the harder ones to deal with but you will get through it.
