Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Glimmerman, what I meant about some of those things being insignificant to me was that they are not worth arguing over to me. I wasn't trying to belittle if they are significant to my W. Sorry if it came across like that. I see your point though. My C also puts a high importance that I value my W. I have always thought that I value her and I think I do. However, I can now see how wanting to do things my way could make her feel that I don't value her. Makes perfect sense. I guess I didn't look at it that way with her wanting to bring in the house cleaners. I looked at it as she was being lazy/stubborn and didn't want to help. When I talk to her today I am going to agree with her to bring in the house cleaners.

I have read the WAW article many times. Helps to remind me where my W might be right now. Thanks Glimmerman.

Gucci, I can understand your thinking there might be a possible OM. I respect your opinion but I'm here to tell you that there isn't OM. If I ever found out there is, I would be the first to tell you you're right. The reason though, that my W wants to sell the house so fast is because it is in danger of going into foreclosure. In my first post I think I mentioned that when my business closed, my W and I had to file personal bankruptcy. It's was nearly impossible to afford the house on just her salary for the past two years while I was home depressed and with no job. I've been working with the bank to try to work out a mortgage modification. If you watch the news about trying to work with the banks, I'm sure you can see how difficult it is to get the banks to work with you. Until/if I am able to work something out with the bank, our house is in danger of foreclosure. My W doesn't want the house to be foreclosed on and that's why she is in such a hurry to sell it. Not because of any OM. Her reasons are legitimate.

The reason I am not as panicked about foreclosure as my W is because the bank can't foreclosure on it for a while. I have some time to work something out with them. If something cannot be worked out, the bank will most likely agree to put it for sale for so many months before they would foreclose.

The past is something that is still difficult for me to think about at times. What my W and I went through with my comapny (legal matters, etc.), the tremendous financial troubles, and huge stress, I wouldn't wish on anyone. We have had an extremely tough last couple of years. We probably went through more crap in the last two years than some people go through in a lifetime. Oh, trust me, her reasons are legitimate for selling the house.