Detachment is almost a sign of unconditional love....for yourself. Love starts from within and not from the outside. I am not talking the quick "I like who I am and what I do love". but more a deep look into you...mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
This doesn't happen over night, in a week, or even months. It is a progressive journey that takes time and once started doesn't end. You have to bluntly review yourself....not in the eyes of anyone, but purely yourself.
So I ask you...Do you help others to make yourself happy or are you happy so you help others?