They are very upset with her decisions. 1st to start the divorce and now very upset with the fact that she is seeing someone else who she has denied since the start. She has told them to respect her decisions. She tells me they just want her happy and they respect what she has decided. They say she is out of line and that they don't agree with her decisions and feel she is making a horrible mistake. They told her if they have to decide they will choose me. he is not allowed to see her family for at least a year after the D is final.
Sorry, but they aren't going to change her mind. No one, except HER, is.
Let her deal with her family. Maintain your relationship with them, if you want. But don't try to use them to influence her. That will not work.
I don't plan on influencing them at all. They can feel anyway they want to about her decisions. I just plan on still being their friends because that shouldn't have to change just because she made a bad choice.
I don't plan on influencing them at all. They can feel anyway they want to about her decisions. I just plan on still being their friends because that shouldn't have to change just because she made a bad choice.
W has said things like she just felt like she was going to have a nervous breakdown (i was controlling with money) she now says i look much more handsome than they day we met. she just can't go back. she is going to move forward in her life and never look back with guilt. She just doesn't think that we can have that emotional connection like she needs. i just don't understand her anymore (not like om does i am sure).
You can rebuild your emotional connection by having physical imtimacy and spending time with each other. Its pretty simple. Look into the future together and meet each others needs.
I don't see a future with her. Divorce will be done within a couple of months. She has found her replacement. I am just healing myself and moving on. This note was good closure for me and she will have to live with her poor choices not me.