On his way out the door, H was clearly VERY angry and upset. He was angry that I didn't wake up to "hear" him last night. He said that he needs to talk to me tonight and I said I'd think about it. He said if I don't, he'll "pull the plug on this thing right now" meaning the marriage. I said "I'm sorry you feel that way with a little smile." He got furious at that and said, "you leave me no choice. And if the harrassing phone calls and emails don't stop (meaning my ONE phone call to OW) - the third party has nothing to do with us. He actually said that. Can you guys believe it? Well, yes, you probably can.
Sounds like from what I've heard on here, I need to ask MIL/FIL to admit what they know and say they side with me fighting for the M.
But how about the talk tonight? Do I go ahead with it? Validate, listen, ignore, avoid? I already know what he is going to say. He'll say he's been out of love with me for years (how should I respond to that?) and he has been towing the line (response?) and that he's afraid of my "dark" side (which is not a dark side, it's just a few times I got very angry and blew up. He's tying it all back to when I was a teenager and cut myself, apparently. I should have seen that coming because I hit myself on the head the other day out of pure, sheer frustration and he said "I can't fix you, you've been like this forever." Weird at the time, now I know he's tying what happened when I was 15, 23 years ago, to now.
