DH waited to 3 am to try to talk to me. He first said "can we talk" and I pretended to be asleep. Then he said about 10 min later, "I know you're awake and can hear me." - I kept "sleeping" and then he said "I changed my mind about going to Retro." I kept my cool, kept "sleeping" realizing he was baiting me and I wasn't going to fall for it at all. He wanted to push buttons, wanted me to react and I didn't. Sleep did a world of good for me. I am a bit calmer today, but not as sure of myself as I was yesterday before news from MIL/FIL. Huge bombs were dropped yesterday and I'm still reeling inside but won't show it outside.
Calm, cool, collected. Thanks all. Going to re-read your posts now to make sure it all sinks in. I'll try calling OWH today.