Yes Yes!! Renew your vows, fantastic idea. Kids can be flower girl and pageboy and your parents would be thrilled and I can come and wear a ...SUN hat and no gloves and you can get a new diamond!!
Course ya gonna make it, never doubted it for a second sunbeam
xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
"Haven't seen/lived him so relaxed and happy for ages. He was funny, teasing me all the time, tender, he did a few gestures I couldn't believe he did (like calling me to him to kiss my...belly), he was flirting all the time, good with the kids..."
What "worked"?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I dont know exactly what worked. He actually acted more, than responded to me. I had to filter myself and practise "stop signs" for my thoughts etc etc. I also tried to relax and be more upbeat and cool... I kept telling him he acted silly because he was acting silly and funny and like a 6 yr old... Pinched my butt, pulled my hair, kissed my neck, frenched kissed me in the middle of the day out of the blue....He even complimented my cooking, he talked about plans for the summer, he held my hands while driving.
I am expecting something to happen this week, I mean something not so pleasant. The everyday routine is not an easy one for us. We'll see what happens.
What works for me FG, is, imagining what kind of a wife would be attractive to me, I am walking in his shoes (that's how you call it?). I also try to be honest and not act crazy without letting him know what bothers me. We do have some breakthroughs as far as communication is concerned. Issues are resolved or put at peace with no resentement.
<<Our kids are so happy>> Now THAT makes ME jealous... :-)
<<I am expecting something to happen this week, I mean something not so pleasant>> Sure things happen K, it is how you and your H react to them that matter...
I am a) happy for your whole cland and b) proud of your progress. Who would have thought that one of ours would have made it this far?
There are always bumps in the road my dear. It's how you handle them that matters.
And if you two keep the communication improving and handle them as a couple, there is literally nothing you can't accomplish as a team!
I think that feeling that something bad is going to happen is not a true gut feeling (please tell me if I'm wrong) but just a protective wall. That way you won't be surprised and hurt when something bad does happen. Just be careful it doesn't turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy though!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
