This whole religious thing and the hypocrisy we see but they don't, is imo, b/c Your w and OM also use their feelings of "love" and passion for each other NOT as signs of a new found attraction and middle aged MLC type of addictive behavior BUT as evidence that it is somehow from God. They want to wrap it nicely. Nothing tawdry here folks!! "THIS IS REAL" and look, she's so enlightened her h AND her new found love are both here blessing it all....isn't it all so beautiful???
If your w were not married, I'd love to buy that, AND yet I'd still say "slow down" and get to know this OM....but oops, she IS already m and there are children. I could not do this to my kids unless my h hit me AND there'd be no need to lie then. Good thing that pastor knows now. Let a real spokesman for the Big Guy do some real talking. I think he'll plant seeds and that in SOME time, she'll wake up OR she'll quickly choose another avenue and stop going this religious route. But the seeds may find dry soil for some time. My instinct says she won't wake up for a long time. Like over a year. Just something I cannot articulate but yes, I do think it'll happen but have no picture on where you'll be on your journey then.
The serenity prayer is wonderful. But do and say it all, for it does not stop at asking God to grant you the serentity to "accept the things we cannot change"; it also asks for the "courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" so may God grant you all that and more.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
