Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[saffie]

Just a minor point really passenger, but picking up on the 'control' theme.

Remember that now exposure has taken place there is only a certain amount YOU can control - basically yourself and YOUR actions. You are going to have to weather a stormy ride over the next few days/ weeks.

Also remember that his parents have seen him do this before.......you can only rely on their support so much. At the end of the day he is THEIR son and he may be able to convince them he needs out. Nine years - it sounds like a pattern.

The trouble with exposure is you never know how the chips are going to fall. So tread carefully.

I can imagine that for a man, being in a R where he is the lower earner etc. that he has felt somewhat emasculated and that OW strokes his ego and soothes that feeling. I imagine he aslo feels a bit like he has to come hcap in hand to ask for permission to do stuff, ( non of which is a good excuse for an A). However, going to Retro would be good as you could iron out your misinterpretations of what each other says - such as you asking your H how long he is going to be so you can plan your day, whilst he thinks you are putting pressure on him.

Well done in what you have done so far.