You know how I feel - It is metally exhausting trying to do the right thing while trying to gain some sort of approval by my W that I am able to stand on my own two feet and 'move on ' with my life.
As puppy dog tails told me awhile ago, he can see I am still enmeshed in my W and have not successfully detached from her.
After me taking some photos from the house, she rang me three times, then left 3 very angry voicemail messages. I ignored all of her attempts to talk to me as I will not be drawn in to an argument, in fact I wrote a note to her asking her to refer all correspondence to me via solicitors.
she responded by saying it was a 'pathetic' note, but I like to think I have drawn a boundary by having no contact with her at all. Our R has completely broken down to the point now where there is no contact, she initiates it only to engage in confrontation which I avoid by ignoring her. This makes her madder I am sure, and I believe she sees it as me being weak by avoiding her, I seeit as retaining the moral high ground
The only problem here we cannot consult on the children's welfare, but I do not want to engage with her as it still bothers me seeing her as I am still attracted to her.
Why, I don't know as she has treated me appallingly.
My D11 was very upset over this weekend when she saw the 'For Sale'sign outside our house. I told her it was the best thing for both of us, but she blamed me for the impending D as I was not giving any money to my W.
Why an eleven yeay old would come out with that obviously means her little mind is being poisoned with this whole situation being my fault.
I desperately wanted to tell her mummy decided to have an affair and end the marriage, but I dare not. What do you tell an eleven year old who thinks the LBS is the one to blame for breaking up our family?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
