You can't worry about how she views you, worry about how you view you. You will get what you are supposed to. Gucci's way of thinking is a very secure and attractive one, it will draw in the right people.
For someone like our wives who currently think they made a firm decision in being the way they are, let them flounder for a while.
This new approach, you break into your own thinking and are not defined by her viewpoints. I think the date sounds good with some outside friends who find you attractive.
I'm sure you wish you could pay child maintenance or more, perhaps get a part time temporary job to prove it to yourself. Pay something on the child maintenance.
Always prove it to yourself, you won't get tired as easy that way.
