This may be a bad example, I don't know, but here's kind of how I would think about it. A lot of the things that women get done at the spa, they could do to themselves at home. So why do they spend the money to go to the spa?
So, if you paid to do something that your wife COULD do to save money, is it possible that could send a message to her that you are listening to her AND value her?
I am not certain if it goes against DB rules or not, but you might consider thinking about saying something like this to your wife.
In your 11:10 post in paragraph 6, you put "these are small insignificant items to ME". Your wife has seemingly brought it up often enough that it is NOT insignificant to HER.
Not trying to beat up on you....these are things I'm learning as I'm in the middle of trying to save my own marriage. Part of the reason my wife is a WAW is she got tired of me doing everything my way. I am in your same boat in that I hope it's not too late for me also. I think part of the 180's is your wife TRUSTING that's how the "new" you is going to stay.
