Need some advice with WAH

[Swiss Miss]

Oh, I like the gist of this one. I have thought of telling him I'm not going to sit around auditioning to be his wife but haven't wanted to start an R talk. I just don't see any possibility that he'll leave OW hanging out to dry by abandoning in the midst of the mess she's in, which is how he'd see it. I hate to put it like that as it makes it sound so justified, but I don't think he'll pick me over her at this point.

And as far as mixed messages, I kind of thought that was a good thing as it confuses them? I'm sure he spends a fair amount of time wondering what I want, if I'm serious about D, if I'm serious about not dating, if I'll take him back, etc. I've been sending him mixed messages on purpose, to some extent. I also feeling funny saying we even have a marriage because at this point, we don't in my mind. I didn't even DB for the first month because I felt it was hopeless, he was so intent on divorcing and kept reiterating his intent. Thanks again.