Need some advice with WAH

[Swiss Miss]

Oh, that's a lot of tough advice! It makes sense overall, but my main problem is I have no idea whether or not he wants to reconcile. He may think he doesn't have a chance any more with me, I don't know.

He will say that OW's marriage is hopeless and she shouldn't sort it out with her H. And of course NC will mean she's on her own with it all, despite her hundreds of Facebook friends.

I'm also concerned about not pulling away anymore. Ever since I've been happy on my own, he's been coming back some. That may be because I've not been so angry and pretty much the girl he fell in love with, but I wonder if it's too soon to totally come around. He does miss our son although he usually has him Saturday and Sunday, and has asked to go into his room a couple times because he misses it. That one kind of breaks my heart.

My last problem is his parents, I haven't spoken to his mother since the day I called her although she did get me a birthday gift in February, and his dad did offer to help me move. And they went into my mom's store to drop off the birthday gift. I did tell H I wouldn't rat him out again, and he did trust me enough to say what he told them about the friend for coffee business.

Their family does seem to tolerate infidelity more than mine does, although his dad is pretty embarrassed about his son's behavior from what I can tell. I do have the voicemail H left me after my sister caught him, it's not terribly incriminating but it does mention our son was only over there for an hour, etc. And I think they'd say we're separated with the intent to divorce so it's not really cheating. Even I have more of a problem that he's sleeping with another man's wife behind his back than that he's cheating on me, since we're separated.

As for the OW, she sure is beneath me and I hate to sound so snobby saying so. She is kind of trashy and one of my problems in potentially getting back with H is that he's been with her. Somehow it would seem easier if he was with a higher class woman, but from what I read on here that's common enough.

I know everyone gives you these lists of excuses so here's mine!