I hope your mom's surgery goes well. I saw her photos on FB.. she looks so vivacious, it's hard to believe she could be that ill.
What does your lawyer say about all this skipping out and changing dates? Connecticut limits the number of times a trial date can be rescheduled, and if one party doesn't show up, the other party can get whatever they want.
I had and the former spouse changed to a Super Lawyer, not because of the the assignation, but because of their reputation. Mine came highly recommended from a good attorney friend. In the end, I felt my lawyer was more concerned about her reputation than meeting my needs.
Your situation is so strange. Why does that man dawdle? It sounds like he's making a life with his affair partner but stringing her along at the same time (and how did HER best friend end up talking to you at a party?).
Is there a benefit for you to allow the divorce to stretch out so far over time? Any continuance and legal advice should come from your lawyer.. not your divorcing spouse, encouraging you to leave the courthouse, etc. If you want the divorce, finish it. This limbo thing becomes its own lifestyle.
If someone asks if you are married and you speak about a three year affair your husband has been having.. that sends one message. If you reply that you're finishing up the legal process of divorce, that says another. If you say, no.. that says something else completely.
How's the new place? I didn't realize you'd moved out of the house. It's good to know you can reassure your youngest that all relationships take time to develop.
